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Life after an abusive relationship
How to deal with false accusations from your ex
You don't have to put up with false accusations from your ex. If you have an abusive ex, you'll know what I'm talking about—mind-bending emails accusing you of things you've never done. Or messages accusing your family members of things that never happened. Sometimes...
The Formula For Dealing With a Narcissist
When someone understands the formula for dealing with a narcissist, it can be a life-changing moment. My neighbor, who’s in her mid 60s, had a major operation recently. I drove her to have her dressing changed. On the way, we got talking about the work I do. “You...
Addicted To Drama? How To Break the Drama Cycle
Are you an abuse survivor who's addicted to drama? Do you waste your time and energy on people who disrespect you, or seek out situations that stress you out and outrage you? Drama addiction is a form of emotional dependency that stems from unresolved trauma and low...
How to Keep your Legal Fees Down in a High-Conflict Divorce
If you're in a high-conflict divorce, you might be faced by the specter of mounting legal fees. I understand. I've got clients who've forked over enough to their lawyers to put 3 down payments on a house. And these aren't rich people.Their fees skyrocketed for various...
Hope After an Abusive Relationship
11 years ago, I walked out of an abusive relationship and a 22-year marriage. I'd only been in Canada 2 years, and my husband called my mom in Ireland, saying "Rina will end up on your doorstep." I'd left an abusive relationship but I was homeless. I had no income to...
Abusive Emails From Your Ex? Use This Routine To Manage Them.
Do you dread opening up your email, knowing that you're going to have to deal with abusive emails from your ex? Are you so paralyzed with fear that you don't even want to face looking at your emails any more? Well, help is at hand, with my handy routine for dealing...
Avoiding Allegations of Alienation
If you're in a custody battle with an abusive, toxic ex, here's one shell game you need to avoid. I'm talking about when the abusive parent accuses their victim of "parental alienation". This can happen in all relationships, whether the abuser is male or female, and...
Family Court Tips You Need to Know Before You Leave an Abusive Partner
If you're facing the prospect of a separation or divorce from an abusive partner and there are children are property involved, you're about to dive into the meat grinder of family court. Stay on top of it with these family court tips. 1. Everyone loses in family court...
Why Does My Ex Accuse Me of Things I Haven't Done?
Ever found your ex accusing you of things you haven't done? Here's why that happens. Abusers with narcissistic tendencies will do anything to avoid acknowledging their own inner shame. They use unconscious psychological strategies to protect their ego from anxiety,...
8 Things You Need To Know Before You Leave an Abusive Relationship
Are you in a relationship with someone who's controlling and abusive? If you're thinking of leaving them, here are 8 things you need to know. 1. Controlling abusers will still try to control you after the relationship endsEven if they initiate the breakup,...